What does an erotic romance writer do when she’s not writing about sex? Read about it, right? Well, full disclosure, I had never even heard of the erotic romance genre when I wrote my first erotic short. Of course, I knew about straight-up romance, but I was not a fan. As I wrote in my first post No Hearts and Flowers, I’m not big on riding off into the sunset or written in the stars.
But I’m also not into straight up erotica. The mechanical aspect of sex is a snooze, as far as I’m concerned, no matter how kinky it is. This stick goes in that hole, in-out-in-out, yawn. I like the psychology of sex. The seduction. Dare I say, the romance?
I wanted to read something that combined the complex characters and can’t-put-it-down plots of the books I read by authors like Emma Donaghue and Emily Giffin with some seriously titillating sex, but as far as I knew, that book didn’t exist. So I wrote it.
By the summer of 2011, I had written my first erotic novel, Please, but I didn’t know what I was going to do with it. I mean, I couldn’t publish it, could I? People would think I was a pervert. Besides, who other than me would want to read it? Then came 50 Shades of Grey.
Not to be critical, but I wasn’t too impressed with the writing. I only managed to make it through the first of the series, rolling my eyes with every inner goddess, oh my and holy hell. But its success was a revelation. People did read erotic romance. Lots of them. Maybe I was a pervert, but apparently, so was everybody else.
I decided that if EL James could do it, so could I. It was when I was researching how to promote Please that I discovered the world of romance book blogs, and through them, the wild variety of sub-genres of romance. Who knew that for every shade of grey there was erotic romance author with a different slant on seduction? Perhaps there were one or two out there that wouldn’t have me muttering “you’ve got to be kidding me” under my breath and skipping to the sex scenes?
Indeed, there are. I’ve had quite a few misses. Different strokes for different folks, and all that. But I’ve also discovered some authors who know how to blend story and sex in an incredibly compelling way. And I’d like to share them. Interested? Check out my I Like page.